I was re-reading an article I wrote… I notice there’s this trend where I talk about women and say how I don’t have advice. Well, apparently I do have some advice.

First of all, more = more. Second, there are positive and negative mental loops. Let’s talk about these things.

More = more.

So I’ve been doing sales for a while and I’ve been wondering, “What is the real magic behind sales?” Like how does a person get that Midas touch? I’ve found out that it’s really a commitment to the hours you put into it. Getting a few sales is inevitable. But if you want a lot of sales, you’ve got to put in the extra hours. It’s all numbers, for better or worse. 1 in 10. 1 out of 100. 1 out of 1000. Increase the denominator, and eventually your numerator will increase. That’s all there is to it. 1 out of 1000 might be 2 out of 1000. Increase to 10,000 and you might get 5 out of 10,000. Sure, that’s 0.5 out of 1000, BUT, you still have FIVE instead of TWO.

Loops.

So, I’ve mentioned in previous articles that I used to frequent “gothic” night clubs. And, I’ve said that I felt like something of an “imposter.” I’d forgotten a bit of the details as to why I felt like an imposter, but now I remember.

Let me give you a great example of a negative loop. And to do this, let me dial this back to BC times. In BC times there was a specific group that today we call “The Jews.” Who knows what they were actually called back then. But let’s just call them the Jews. Not all Jews are like this, but clearly the majority of them are. They have a specific negative psychological loop that goes like this: “I am a Jew; outsiders oppress me for being a Jew. Because or at least partially because outsiders oppress me, this will fuel or partially fuel my Jewishness.” Any group that is a minority of any kind can get sucked into this type of negative thinking.

You might think this is an inferiority complex. But mind you, Jews see themselves as “God’s chosen people,” which is sort of an attempt to rectify their inferiority (real or perceived) with a sense of superiority. Regardless of the negativity of being oppressed, Jews are not going to change away from being Jewish. No matter how many Christians try to save them with Christianity. For the Jews, Jewishness is the place to be and they are not moving.

Who else is like this? Lol, have you seen the movie The Outsiders? Sigh. Greasers vs the Socs? This is ultimately an “Us versus Them” type of complex. I speculate every subculture on the globe took on this fantasy. Because why not? It’s romantic, and romance is attractive. Metalheads and goths were no exception to finding this attractive. But… I gotta say, the goths really took this to about the level of the Jews.

I was aware of this type of negative-loop-thinking as far back as being a “metalhead” in high school, and I almost fell victim to it. But alas, I did not have a group of metalhead friends that I ran around with. I was a loner. I had no group, so this negative loop A) didn’t have soil to grow, and B) I could see the negative loop and see other people utilizing it. The only real reason I could like heavy metal was actually for the best reason of all: because I liked it. It did not need any kind of social-political explanation.

So by the time I was interested in the gothic subculture this specific loop was easy to spot, and I wasn’t about to fall into it. In my point of view, once you’ve seen the loop you have a natural aversion towards using it. Because it’s CRINGE. So in the goth subculture, I did not care if people thought I was a “true goth” or “legit” or whatever. I did not care if people thought I was a “weekend warrior.” Being 24/7 goth is obviously incredibly ridiculous and impossible. Probably only stripper chicks or “adult industry” girls can pull it off these days, because, they don’t have square jobs. They can play dress-up all day long. If you’re a dude and want to pull off being 24-7 goth, good fucking luck. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but it is retarded. So that’s why I felt I was an imposter. By never embracing the “Us vs. Them” complex in the goth scene, I was kind of breaking an unwritten rule. But seriously. Goths? As a group they can’t really consider themselves to be a high quality group. An individual in the scene might be cool, but as a group they’re not a cool group.

Maybe that’s the best way to look at all of these subcultures. Don’t bother looking at them as a group at all. Just a collection of individuals – some good and some bad. And to that end are they really a “culture” if they’re not functioning as a group? Maybe they’re just like a “collectives” or something. Who knows. I digress.

So while I have identified a loop, and further identified it as a negative loop, it is worth asking: “Are there positive loops out there?” The answer has to be “yes.”

These loops actually function as affirmations, if you’re at all familiar with affirmations. Basically you become what you tell yourself you’re going to become. And you reinforce it every day, every week, every month, every year, etc. If you’ve ever been “into something,” or “really into something,” you have experience with this. You get looped in. And then inevitably, the rule of “more equals more” starts to apply to whatever you’re into. You start increasing the denominator and the numerator is very likely to increase. You could call the denominator something like “attempts” and the numerator something like “rewards.” Then, what will happen over time is magic. In the positive sense this is sometimes called “the hot hand.” There’s a friggin’ book called The Hot Hand. A lot of it has to do with basketball. If you’ve ever watched basketball, you might have seen certain players have one of those nights where they can’t miss a shot. It’s an amazing thing to witness.

Well, in my previous article I warned against being a pickup artist, but now, it appears I have more or less told you the science of how to become one if you want to. First step: install in your mind a positive affirmation and psychological loop. Eg, “Hot women want to have sex with me because I’m a great lover. I’m a great lover, obviously, because so many hot women want to have sex with me.” (Note: the adjective “hot” needs to be there or you’ll get weird results.) Second step: talk to as many hot women as you can. I understand this is getting tough in America where sometimes it’s difficult to find hot women, but, to solve that problem just install another psychological loop: “It’s easy for me to find hot women to talk to, because I’m an awesome guy. I’m an awesome guy so I have no trouble finding hot women to talk to.” Install as many loops as you need, for cryin’ out loud. It’s your life, you can do what you want.

Do you doubt that this will work? Ok, how old are you? If you’re in your late 40’s then stop doubting already. You’ve lived long enough to have gotten “into” something. All you’re doing is transposing what you did in the past onto something new. Any goal that you want to achieve. You just have to ask yourself what you want to do and where you want to go.